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Critical Wisdom For Deep And Lasting Personal Change

Colors of Imagination series. Abstract design made of streaks of color on the subject of art creativity imagination and graphic designI’ll be blunt.

I am one of the ‘luckiest’ people in the world.


Because of the stuff I know/have experienced, and the ease with which I experience deep peace, joy and connection to to the ‘cosmic mind’.

Yet…my start in life was really bad. Extremely bad parenting was a key component in my developing severe mental health issues.

I recovered…and so much so that I now even count mental health professionals and doctors among my clients.

So yes, I am ‘elite’. But not a proud git. Ironically, humility is a key component of mental freedom, spiritual reality and smart thinking.

These days I am immensely grateful for my early life and shitty parents. For example; I am so much better off than people who had a lovely childhood.

One of the keys to breaking free was the correct use of my imagination.

Einstein nailed it too:

“All meaningful and lasting change starts first in your imagination and then works its way out. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”

Albert Einstein

If you are serious about clearing mental, spiritual or other shit from your deep subconscious mind, get in touch.

But only if you are serious. Most people are not. Don’t be like them.

I will show you important logic/law of how the subconscious mind works, how you can get it to work for you instead of against you, and get you ‘doing’.

When you do, according to a law, it works – you don’t even need to believe it – because it’s the law.

Dropped eggs break on impact because of various physical laws. It’s the same with your mind.


  • “It is those who have been broken who become experts at mending.” ~ Steve Maraboli


Are You Disgusting On The Inside? If So, There Is Hope

When I was young I was rotten on the inside. Nasty, disgusting, hateful and more.

Why? Partly because of poor parenting; especially so in the case of my father.

I had severe mental health issues from which I have genuinely* (*I do not take mind altering drugs – ‘happy pills’ etc) recovered today; so much so that I even count mental health professionals and doctors among my clients!

One of the critical keys to my freedom, joy, character and peace of mind today was that I took personal responsibility for fixing the mess my parents made, and the mess I made by subsequent poor choices and thinking.

Another important key was that I faced up to the truth and ‘confronted’ my inner ‘rottenness’. One aspect of this is that if we do not acknowledge and face up to who we really are inside, then we are not going to be able to change, or even realise that we need to change. Instead we will live a life of denial and delusion, all the while ‘inflicting’ ourselves upon other people and animals.

Today I came across this impressive and clever video which demonstrates the shallow and hateful nature of large numbers of people. Watch the video and listen, as well as you can, to your subconscious mind and see if you ‘align’ with any of the horrible attitudes displayed – if any resonate with you, then you have some work to do.

Video: You Look Disgusting (Woman posted images of herself without makeup on social media. The film contains real comments that were left on images of her face).

Ref: https://twitter.com/mypaleskinblog and http://mypaleskin.com/

In our society we are subjected to a multitude of things which condition our subconscious minds to think along certain lines. Beauty related advertising is one example.

Like most people, I appreciate beauty. The beauty of nature for example. We are ‘hard-wired’ to appreciate the beauty of nature. This preference for beauty is normal and part of our ‘biology’. What is bad is when we focus on what is not beautiful in an unhealthy way which can not only harm others, but which can corrode our internal character.

It is important to have balance. Yes, beauty can and should be celebrated. On the other hand, we need to exercise care that viewing a lack of beauty does not feed our inner ugliness. Our subconscious minds can and do get in the way of this balance however.

In my garden we have a bird with an abnormally twisted beak – I watch him/her eating and enjoy seeing the will to survive and the clear good health the bird enjoys; which in the case of this bird, is where the significant ‘beauty’ lies. I do not ‘see’ deformity. In any case, I was once ‘deformed’ inside, which matched my slanted (disfigured face – more visible when not smiling – see bottom of post for photograph), and that was worse than any physical deformity. Who am I to judge and denigrate deformity?

Noisy Miner

Australian Noisy Miner with food and crooked beak

Being ‘deformed’ inside – having a rotten character – is far worse than having a slanted face like mine, a disability (my hearing loss which requires hearing aids – aka ‘deaf bastard’, ‘four ears’, ‘spastic’, to some people) and having one bollock that is smaller than the other because my parents never got an undescended testicle* and associated hernia sorted out until I was almost a teenager. (*PS: It never stopped me dating beautiful women (inside and out) and I am married to one I have known since 1999). Don’t worry, there’s no picture of the testicle – you will have to take my word for it.Corset_stockings


It is possible to change our subconscious minds in such a way that good character can develop. Personally, I found that much of the positive character development I experienced was a ‘side-effect’ of sorting out subconscious mind issues which were causing me pain. Most of my clients seek my help in resolving issues which are painful or difficult in some way. A few directly seek help in developing character. An important point to bear in mind is that generally, fixing internal pain is more important to people than developing character. Once significant pain areas are resolved, people are then much better able to focus on character development – it’s a kind of ‘evolution’.

Another key thing I learned along the way to the deep inner freedom I know today, was the realisation that a significant part of the power that the horrid words of others have to harm us lies in what WE think about the words. Significant parts of stress for example comes from what we think about a situation. The same applies for words. No one makes you angry – you get angry because of what you think about a situation. (Subconscious Mind Change 6 – Nobody And Nothing Made You Angry).

Trolls, bullies and other haters have rotten insides. What they think and have to say does not matter; unless YOU make it matter with the power of YOUR thoughts. Such people are worthy of the label ‘shitheads’ – their minds are full of shit. Now, if you walked past an overflowing blocked toilet and it spoke to you, calling you names etc…would you pay any attention? Of course not – because your eyes would tell you it was a toilet full of crap. So it is with trolls and bullies – they are full of crap. As such, they are ‘nothings’. In fact, as one evolves character-wise it becomes easier to see these trogs more clearly – they are sad empty souls in need of help – people to be pitied. Perhaps we can help them?

Kindness wins. Kindness to yourself and to others.

Be that person. Not the toilet-head.


  1. If you need help to overcome your own inner rottenness please get in touch. Besides being able to help you effect remarkable change, I won’t judge you. I too was once rotten.
  2. If you like the corset my wife is wearing, Absolute Corsets is where she obtained it from. It is hand made. The stockings are Cervin Tentation Fully Fashioned.
  3. One reason I can write so openly about my defects is because my self-esteem is high. I do not rely on other people for my sense of worth.
Alex - slanted face

My slanted, defective face






Truth – Quotes and Commentary

Respect for those who tell truth

Do you? Really? Honestly?

I love truth.

In part, I love truth because it is reality.

My opinion, your opinion are just that – opinions.

Truth rocks. So much so it can often hurt.

Our minds are so full of error; much of it deeply engrained into our subconscious minds.

To the extent that we don’t clear our subconscious, we will have truth issues, many of which we will be unaware of.

Learn to love truth.

Truth is a beautiful, clear and even ‘worshipful’ thing. But you have to know and experience this personally.

“I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for truth; and truth rewarded me. Sylvia Ashton Warner

“Reality, if rightly interpreted, is grander than fiction.” Thomas Carlyle

“No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself, and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true.” Nathaniel Hawthorne

“Our lives improve only when we take chances – and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves.” Walter Anderson

“There can be no knowledge without emotion. We may be aware of a truth, yet until we have felt its force, it is not ours. To the cognition of the brain must be added the experience of the soul.”  Arnold Bennett

“Every violation of truth is not only a sort of suicide in the liar, but is a stab at the health of human society.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Just as surely as distress must follow self-deceit, healing must follow self-honesty.” Vernon Howard

“We tell ourselves so many lies and half-truths … We listen and are duly impressed by these inner voices that turn into unseen judges that nag at us. We give each of these judges a seat of honor in our minds, all the while hating their guts and their never-ending supply of judgements … We give the judges permission to accompany us on each journey of life, never daring to realize that we can park them, at least momentarily.” Eloise Ristad

“Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.” Don Richard Riso & Russ Hudson

“Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth.” Katherine Mansfield

“Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.” Janis Joplin

“You must speak straight so that your words may go as sunlight to our hearts.” Cochise

“You cannot fake a relationship and feel right with yourself or anyone else. Changing yourself to fit what you think other people want doesn’t work. Pretending to be someone other than yourself only broadens the distance between the person you are and the one with whom you’re trying to establish closeness.” Mary Manin Morrissey

“The truth is like a lion; you don’t have to defend it. Let it loose; it will defend itself.” Augustine of Hippo

“What concerns me is not the way things are, but rather the way people think things are.”  Epicetus

“The trouble with the world is not that people know too little, but that they know so many things that ain’t so.” Mark Twain

“The greatest friend of truth is Time, her greatest enemy is Prejudice, and her constant companion is Humility.” Charles Caleb Colton

“I love it when people show me where I’m wrong, partly because I can grow.” Alex Rowan

“Even truth needs to be clad in new garments if it is to appeal to a new age.” Georg C. Lichtenberg

2 Why We Are Responsible AND We Are Not Responsible For Our Choices And Decisions

ResponsibilityHow responsible for our choices are we? Really?

Take a look at this quote:

“Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument, or your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make, period.” Brenda Slavin

Many might say that the quote is harsh, incorrect and even ‘simplistic’. In some respects they are right.

On the other hand, large numbers of people would agree with the quote. I do, to an extent – see my article: I’m Tired Of People With Mental Health Issues Using Them as Excuses For Evil

So what is right?

The thinking outlined in the quote is often misused.

Among other things, such thinking can be used:

  • To berate people
  • To look down on people
  • To blame people
  • To excuse the need to help people
  • To be nasty
  • To abuse people
  • To stigmatize others
  • To fuel self righteousness and sanctimoniousness
  • To excuse inability to help
  • To avoid the need to look at your own life
  • To feel powerful
  • To legitimize erroneous schools of thought – an example: why my grandparents got bombed during the Blitz of 1940.

Now we have some idea of the problem, I will further illustrate the point that we can be BOTH responsible and not responsible for the choices and decisions we make.

The issue lies with the subconscious mind.

You see, when thinking is deeply lodged in our subconscious mind, we are under its control.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – Carl Jung : http://alexrowan.com/5216/make-unconscious-conscious-will-direct-life-will-call-fate-carl-jung/

Some people are ‘mental cripples’ due to their subconscious thinking. Some of us extend courtesy and understanding to physical cripples, yet we have no patience or tolerance for ‘mental cripples’. Some will trot out the quote above with a self-satisfied lick of the lips as they berate someone.

We are indeed responsible for fixing our subconscious issues – this responsibility was a key facet of my own freedom from severe mental illness, for example.


If we either do not know how to fix the subconscious mind issues, nor know, or have access to, someone who does, then how ‘responsible’ are we?

Cross Roads With Blank Signs

So many people can’t ‘read’ the sign, or worse; don’t even know there is a choice.

By their nature, subconscious mind issues are not conscious, or ‘obvious’. So many people are ‘in the dark’ about the extent of their problems, or even that they have them. If you don’t know that you have a problem, how responsible are you? We don’t blame children for their lack of knowledge do we? We help them.

This whole issue of personal responsibility is a ‘two edged sword’. We are responsible and yet we are not responsible; depending on the situation and the extent of our knowledge/resources.

The start of the solution is to decide that you will recover; that you will uncover and destroy/heal the subconscious issues troubling your life; that you will find a way to get results and that you will stick with it until you are free.

Unfortunately there are multitudes of mental health/counselling ‘professionals’ out there who don’t know how to help people on the very deep subconscious levels. People seeking solutions can be severely hindered in making progress. I know because I had that experience years ago, I know because of what I hear from my clients today, I know because of what I hear ‘around the traps’ of mental health discussion and debate, I know because a good friend (Professor of Psychology) said so.

We need to turn our focus toward educating people on how they can effect deep subconscious mind change. Then they will be more ‘responsible’. They will recover too.

New you old you crossroads sign

It’s easier when we KNOW that there is a problem AND that it is possible to get results.

If you are someone in need of help please contact me for more information. I am a veteran of experience. I can help you in person, via online counselling (Skype), or via phone counselling.

If you are a mental health professional and want to learn how to help your clients, or even yourself, alter the deep subconscious mind then likewise, get in touch. It does not matter if you are a ‘competitor’ – I am about helping people; the more the better.

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