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Are You Consuming Too Much Caffeine?

Addiction Monitor Shows Craving And Substance AbuseThese days it is easy to overdose on caffeine (Wikipedia).

In fact, some people even boast about getting their caffeine fix and tell themselves, and others, that they cannot function without it. You see this across the web; in social media bios, tweets, Facebook posts and more. Caffeine addiction is often presented as some kind of ‘badge of honour’, or thinly disguised by phrases such as ‘Starbucks Addict”.

Caffeine is a drug and if you can’t function without it, you probably have an addiction.

Consuming too much caffeine can creep up on you. I for example used to drink white tea and green tea regularly. I became a caffeine addict unknowingly. In fact because I drank large quantities of green and white tea it was easy to think of it as being  healthy. White tea can have 60 mg of caffeine per cup (I used a mug, which is larger), so it’s not hard to hit a suggested maximum intake of 400 mg caffeine per day (Australian Beverages Council information page).

Have a good read of the Wikipedia article linked at the top of this post. Among others things, the article covers some of the mental health aspects of consuming too much caffeine, as well as side effects (see graphic in the article) – some of which are mind related. Personally, I did not suffer caffeine related mental health issues, however I did have some physiological issues; more on these later.

WebMD have a terrific resource here, which includes details on side effects of caffeine.

Now, notice that I started this post with the words: “These days…” I did so because currently, unlike in decades past, it is so easy to consume too much caffeine – it is included in energy drinks and even some caffeine boosted confectionary!

Just in case you think that consuming too much caffeine is difficult, and won’t apply to you, or your loved ones, have a read of this:

As a 19-year-old dies after downing a high-caffeine drink, the worrying truth about the energy drink craze that’s putting young lives in danger – the article covers a number of key points, one of which is the way marketing is used to encourage consumption of this caffeinated crap by the young. In my view, it is not ethical.

Please also bear in mind that one of the functions of our brains is to think and avoid potential harm.

When we fail to do that, a kind of ‘natural selection’ kicks in and people with poor thinking skills can thus be eliminated from the breeding pool.

No apologies for being blunt. If you are a parent, part of your responsibility is to help your children make wise choices. Please don’t start bleating about how hard it is.

Further reading:

A double eSTRESSo: Warning – your daily coffee is a powerful drug and can even spark panic attacks

Six Tips To Reduce The Stress Hormone, Cortisol This shocking article is the one which had the most profound effect on me. I had been aware of my lowered metabolism, adding unexpected girth to my waist and a looser oesophagus than I liked. I decided to stop drinking tea cold turkey after reading the article. I had withdrawal symptoms for two to three weeks, gradually tapering off. Today I rarely drink tea (don’t like the taste of coffee, though adore the smell). My oesophagus has tightened and the minor GERD has virtually disappeared. Better health is an excellent reward for giving up green & white tea, which I loved.

Hopefully you can stop doing yourself in with caffeine. If you want some help, please get in touch.

PS: No medical professional told me about the need to stop consuming caffeine to assist with GERD sysmptoms – I found out about it online. It is important to take personal responsibility for our health. Medicos can and will ‘drop the ball’ and in any case, to many of them you will just be number – sometimes a large one ;-).

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When A Psychologist Or Psychiatrist Or Counsellor Is Not An Expert

Way too often, I come across disturbing stories about the failure of mental health professionals.

Here’s such an account of how mental health professionals failed to correctly diagnose, and treat, a psychotic drug addict who then shortly afterward went on to kill a pensioner.

Mother begged for psychotic drug addict son to be sectioned just days before he knifed a pensioner to death

I quote:

Mental health workers refused to section him just four days before the tragedy in April 2007 – despite pleas from his elderly mother, who he had ‘bullied and threatened’.

Despite having previous convictions for violence, experts assured her he was not a risk to himself or others.

Apparently, the ‘experts’ thought that the offender was not a threat.

This kind of disastrous conclusion by so called mental health ‘experts’ is not isolated. We cannot pass it off as some kind of rare instance.

mind, water, doorA rational person then is going to have some serious doubts as to the ‘expert’ status of some members of the psychiatric or psychology professions, despite their qualifications and years of study. Indeed, because these disasters are worryingly common, it is no surprise that significant portions of society have little faith in psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors (counsellors), therapists and similar.

In this case, it appears that even people with a modicum of ‘common sense’ would have known that the offender was a severe risk. And that is even without the urging and prompting of the offender’s mother.

For more insight into misdiagnosis by mental health professionals, (I guess I should not call them ‘experts’ now should I?), I suggest that you read up on the Rosenhan experiment.

One of the reasons psychiatrists can prescribe mind-altering drugs is because most (mental health professionals) cannot alter the deep seated thinking underlying mental disorders. Drugs, which can be an effective ‘band aid’ type fix in some cases, are an easy way of giving some people a sense of normalcy. The scope of this article does not include an in-depth exploration of issues surrounding psychiatric drugs – I have mentioned it because it is yet another example of the shortcomings of the mental health ‘sciences’ in assisting people to have a real resolution to their mental health issues.

Years ago, when I had severe mental health issues, I was offered prescribed drugs. I never took them. One reason was because I knew that the drugs would simply mask the real issues and not effect a cure; in fact the drugs would hinder progress. I understood that I needed to destroy the ‘tap roots’ of my mental issues, not cover them up or avoid them. Another reason I refused the drugs is that I had rational grounds for hope concerning another way of resolving my issues.

Simply speaking, people in the community who have mental health issues often have to rely on ‘experts’ who are not real experts and who often cannot provide a real fix to underlying issues, especially if those issues are serious. Many psychologists, for example, will tell you (if they are honest) that they can not fix the deep seated thoughts people have. Yes, they can devise strategies for coping, and sometimes admirably so; however, how much better it is to destroy the underlying problems; which is what I did without their ‘help’.

Keep reading this blog; because I will be writing at length (and producing videos) about how YOU can fix your deep mental health issues – whether they be depression, anxiety, panic attacks, obsessive compulsive thoughts and so on.

Why can I do this?

It is remarkably straightforward.

I have been there and done it myself. I have recovered from serious mental health issues and know what works.

Let me illustrate using a simple analogy or metaphor….

If you were in the army and being attacked by a strong enemy force, would you prefer your buddies to be battle hardened combat veterans, or would you opt for inexperienced people fresh out of officer or infantry training school? I know who I would prefer.

Ask yourself why….

One reason will be because a battle hardened combat veteran knows what they are doing due to extensive personal experience.

I am a veteran of overcoming mental health problems and as such can lead others to freedom. I did not learn it all, or most of it, from a book, or course.

So, whom do you want on your team?

More reading:

Why psychology isn’t science – Los Angeles Times

Psychiatry’s insiders revolt against flawed DSM-5

Why it’s truly bonkers to believe in shrinks (Psychiatrists) – A sobering and confronting read about Psychiatry.

Quote from the article:

When Davies confronted Professor Sue Bailey, head of the Royal College of Psychiatrists, she was frighteningly honest and virtually chucked in the towel: ‘When you go into a profession where you want to help people, and you don’t have the tools to help them, the temptation is to medicalise them.’

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Have You Overcome What Your Parents Did To You? (Poor Parenting)

Poor parenting is a serious problem today.Cartoon parents & childParents have a huge responsibility.

Much bigger than many realise.

Have a read of this article:

So are YOU posher than your parents? The key to social mobility is having a devoted and determined family

It’s an interesting, moving and thought-provoking story. At the end, the author writes:

“I had a lump in my throat as I thought to myself that my dear dad should never thank me for anything. He and my mum — who sadly passed away last year following a battle with Alzheimer’s — sacrificed everything to enable me to go out, make money and enjoy the finer things in life.

And they taught me, too, the three things a child needs to make a success of their life: Love, encouragement and an unbreakable work ethic.”

I want to home in on this: “three things a child needs to make a success of their life: Love, encouragement and an unbreakable work ethic.”

In my case, both my parents had a good work ethic, which I also have. Neither of them loved me however and both actively discouraged me. A friend, who has met both of them, says that she doesn’t think my parents ever loved me, based on HER independent observations of their behavior. Personally, I have no doubt that both my parents hated/hate me.

All that said, I am very fortunate to have had such ghastly parents & received poor parenting!

This is because I overcame what they did to me, took personal responsibility for fixing myself and got healing for my mental illness (caused by what happened to me as a child, including poor parenting).

Among other things, I suffered from: severe depression, anxiety, mania, extreme fears, Obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD), panic attacks, low self-esteem, low confidence, severe introversion, poor social skills, lack of empathy. Those are just a few!

I know a deep peace & joy now, and having observed many people with a good start in life, have realised that I am better off inside than even them. The only significant area I am still catching up on is the financial damage which partly resulted from many years struggling with mental health issues, and partly from doing too much charitable work (helping others too much can be ‘unhealthy’). (Related read: Daily Mail article: Happiness is the best investment for your child’s future, as study reveals happy children grow up to be wealthy.)

Without such awful parents I would never have discovered what I know today – I am thus grateful for my parents.

Unfortunately, most people who have such a bad start in life suffer terrible life outcomes. I nearly did too.

Today, I help others who had a similar poor parenting experience, as well as those who haven’t. As I have been there and done it myself, I have experience and understanding that you cannot learn from a book, class, lecture or buy with money.

If you want help with issues that stem from poor parenting, contact me here.

What kind of parent are you?

Do you have concerns about your parenting style? Perhaps you need some parenting advice, or parenting tips? Perhaps you mean well but make too many mistakes and want to improve your parenting skills? If so, get in touch and get help. Besides the obvious benefits, you will learn things which will help you in other areas of your life also.

“No success in public life can compensate for failure in the home” – Benjamin Disraeli

Topical article: Teen, 18, threw himself in front of train after texting friends to say he was ‘broken after a decade of psychological abuse’ by his mother.


You may have noticed that generally, one finds few true, genuine friends or people in life.

Down the years I found few who really cared and/or helped.

I am grateful for those that did and for those that didn’t (the latter helped me become stronger), and also for the people who helped for the wrong motives (the latter are not listed here, even if they did ‘help’ me).

I am especially grateful to these kind, genuine souls:

Jean Webley (1910 – 1987) & Wilfred Webley (1911 – 1985). Paternal grandparents.

Trevor Webley (Dcd early 70’s) – Wilf’s brother.

Colonel Terry Palmer (1928 – Oct 2011). RM (3 Cdo Bde) , Para (OC 1 Para Log), Special Forces (Recon & Intelligence). Stepfather. A top operator. My mother was a bitch to him as well.

RSM Potter. If I could have had a father, he would have been the one I chose. (My father by blood was not a father in spirit, thus I never had a real dad).

Mr Osborne. The only school teacher to make the list.

Grace Hayward. Helped me as many others were kicking me when I was down.

Val Beale. Gave me a home & other help at a difficult time in my life.

Sarah B.

Dr Joy Harrison M.D. Gave me a home at a difficult time in my life.

Carol Wright. An unusually forward lady – she asked me for a date. Had I not emigrated to Australia in July 1982, I would probably have married her. She is also the only woman I probably would have had children with.

Martin Jones.

Rosamond H.  The tender wind that carried the Lion and gave light in the dark. Never forgotten. Always there, in the invisible.

Pete Middlemas – RM.

Unknown infantry officer – Thirsk, Yorkshire.

Peter Booth. (Dcd 3 June, 1994.) An old style ‘British boffin’. I never did find out if he worked for GCHQ.

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