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Should We Say “Hey Sleepy” Instead Of “Hey Stupid”?

A long time ago I realised that ‘economising’ on sleep was not a good idea; partly because it violates ‘natural law‘.

Here is an interesting article which, among other things, says:

“People who lack the right amount of sleep suffer a reduction in their cognitive abilities without really being conscious of it”.

Scientists using smartphone app to study slumber patterns warn of ‘global sleep crisis’

Notice the lack of awareness…delusion even.

Can you imagine trying to explain the issue to those affected? The resistance would be high.

And what about all those driving with impaired ability?

Should we say “Hey sleepy” instead of “Hey stupid”?

Some will read this and make no changes to their lifestyle. Now that really is stupid.

Which are you?



Read (Focus On) The Right Stuff And You Will Understand The World More Clearly

Everyone on earth has the same amount of time in a day – 24 hours.

We differ in what we focus on.

Garbage in, garbage out, GIGOYears ago – 1981 – to be precise, while studying computer programming, I learnt about a computer science principle called GIGO – this stood for Garbage In, Garbage Out. If we wrote crappy computer code the result would be poor output if any.

I realised then that GIGO applies to any field of life. It’s just that today I have a greater understanding of this. Knowing something important is one thing, however having an in-depth grasp and lived assimilation of the issue is far better.

One way that we can significantly improve the ‘quality of our output’ (thinking and understanding) is to improve the quality of our reading.

Improving the quality of our reading includes:

  • Identifying resources which produce consistently high quality information in an easy to understand writing style. It’s no good if we get bogged down in the verbal equivalents of constipation or diarrhea – our understanding will be limited or lost and we will soon get bored.
  • Identifying ways to ‘get the information coming to us’ – one aspect of this is not having to hunt and peck for the information we need.
  • Dropping time-wasting activities and people. You know you need to.
  • Realising that listening to information – while useful at times (including when unable to read); such as listening to podcasts or the right sort of radio broadcasts/visual media – is a slower way of absorbing information. This is primarily because the human voice (and the associated audio processing by the brain) is a slow information delivery system. The voice does of course convey tone, energy and atmosphere.
  • ‘Delegating’ research and thinking. When you read a good piece of material you can benefit from the smarts of the writer/s and in some cases, team, behind it. You are increasing your smarts faster with leverage.
  • Using technology to increase reading pleasure and functionality. Examples include apps for smart phones, tablets and computers. I like to read in bed at times and never liked the physical struggle with books – today I use the Amazon Kindle app on my smart phone which is so easy to manipulate and to get the lighting just right. If we remove physical barriers/difficulties to beneficial things in life then we will be more likely to take part in them – flowing with ‘natural law‘.

There are other ways we can improve the quality of our reading – perhaps you can let us know how you have done it in the comments below.

Here are some of my favorite reading resources:

  • The Economist – authoritative insight and opinion on international news, politics, business, finance, science, technology and the connections between them.
  • Daily Mail Online – a mixed bag, including the frivolous, however I ‘mine’ it for the key valuable nuggets, of which there are many. I have to be careful about not being seduced by some of the eye candy though! Over the years I have uncovered lots of fantastic information about health, business, psychology, nutrition, relationships and much more.
  • New Scientist – high quality information on a surprising range of subjects, including technology, space, physics, health, earth, humans, life.
  • Scientific American – award-winning authoritative source for the science discoveries and technology innovations that matter.
  • Mind – Scientific American – behavior & society, cognition, mental health, neurological health, neuroscience

Here is an example of what I mean by: “Read (Focus On) The Right Stuff And You Will Understand The World More Clearly”

Evolution of the internet | Growing up | How the internet lost its free spirit – an article in The Economist.

The Internet is not what many people think. A somewhat disturbing read which includes: “When people know they are being watched, they are likely to self-censor and to change their behaviour in response.”

Spend a few minutes reading and absorbing the above article and you will have a better idea of what is really going on.

Much better than reading about the latest Kardashian Krap – don’t you think?

Well…I hope so anyway.

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Are You Genuinely Winning At Life?

“We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us — how we can take it, what we do with it — and that is what really counts in the end.”

– Joseph Fort Newton

We need to decide whether to have a winning mentality.

Not choosing is a decision.

winners, losersIn my early life I was a big-time loser, due in significant part to my severe mental health problems which were primarily parent inflicted.

I overcame the issues, without drugs I might add, to such an extent that I now count mental health professionals, doctors and surgeons among my clients.

I am also extremely grateful to have had such an awful start to life, complete with terrible parents, a bitch of a step-parent, and three rotten ‘excuses’ for brothers/half-brothers.

I am ‘luckier’ than people who had good parents and siblings etc BECAUSE of what I MADE of the situation and what I KNOW.

Losers are people who, among other things, make excuses, take no significant action and make no real/genuine progress.

Which/what are you?

Be careful. Because it is so easy to overlook your losing traits. Many will read this post and nod; all the while suffering from a delusion that they are winners.

True winning at life includes balance – you might be extremely successful in one, or even a few, area/s in life but a big-time loser in others. My father, for instance, was a genuinely world-class business person (example: second in charge of accounts for a multinational car manufacturer – Leyland – at age 24 – in 1962 – he reported only to the Finance Director) yet he was a failure at more important aspects of life. He was so nasty and abusive* that in his final weeks in a private hospital on the Gold Coast (Queensland, Australia), before he died in June 2015, he nearly got thrown out by the nursing staff – a doctor had to intervene. (*My father had been nasty and abusive since my first memories of him – for decades – his attitude was nothing to do with his failing health at life’s end).

So, don’t deceive yourself.

True winning also includes the ‘right things’. That’s beyond the scope of this article, however it includes stuff like kindness, empathy and more. True success is not what many people think it is. It certainly is not just about money.

Science Can Be Good AND Bad For Your Health

snake oil salesman con artistNo apologies if this article is confronting.

It is not however ‘medical advice’. For that, see your relevant medical professional.

I love science for lots of reasons. I enjoyed it at school and despite being top of my year in the final exams, I never went into science as a career. The logical mindset however has proven extremely useful, even if at times unsettling, inconvenient and painful.

GPs (General Practitioner Physicians/Doctors) are generalists – multi-taskers – I’ve met some fantastic ones and some really rotten ones. Quite recently I had to fix a serious medical issue myself despite seeing a GP with over 40 years experience who had referred me to see a specialist with a year-long waiting list. That story is for another blog post, but I will say here that science saved me.

What I want to highlight today is that there is good medical science and bad health science. People like me, and perhaps you, with no medical training (except in my case some civilian and military first aid) can easily get the wrong idea on trying to work out how best to deal with health issues when confronted with life, incompetent GPs, specialists or other medical practitioners. It gets worse. Not all the science is good. Some questionable science is sensationalised and propagated by popular journalists/online news sites who haven’t checked the facts properly.

Let me hand you over to one of my favorite publications…The Economist; who write:

“For my next trick… Too many medical trials move their goalposts halfway through. A new initiative aims to change that”

I quote: “But it can also let unscrupulous researchers go on “fishing expeditions” to prove whatever they want. Collect enough data, and correlations that look statistically significant will appear by chance.”

Be careful out there.

Snake oil salesmen did not die out in the first half of the 20th century. Some of them are lurking in the ‘learned halls’ of science…today. Your health, and that of those you love, could be at risk.

And get a subscription to The Economist while you are at it; join many smart minds, business leaders, deep thinkers. Improve the quality of your life by improving the quality of your reading.


Australian neuroscientist nearly went to jail for making up data

Academics fear new Australian Defence powers will curtail academic freedom and research While I can understand some aspects of the motivation, it concerns me that health research could be affected – health matters can often fall under the remit of military and/or intelligence.

In death, there is life. Big-name scientists may end up stifling progress in their fields | The Economist

Can You Pass The Friendship Test?

The question What's In It For You typed on a piece of graph paper and pinned to a cork notice board

Do you have many, or any, friends?

What kind of a ‘friend’ are you?

Take this friendship test and find out…

  1. Read the quote below.
  2. Think carefully about the quote, and how it applies to the way you handle friendship.
  3. Be honest – come on….there is no point in self-deception. Deceiving yourself is a ‘lonely prison’.
  4. Decide how you can improve.
  5. Take action. Today.
  6. Bear in mind that genuine success in life includes ‘being the right person’. Life is not all about you. In any case, most people you meet think life is about them.
  7. Being a good friend will help you feel better, make your life easier and improve your mental health, among other things.

“There are persons who cannot make friends. Who are they? Those who cannot be friends. It is not the want of understanding or good nature, of entertaining or useful qualities, that you complain of: on the contrary, they have probably many points of attraction; but they have one that neutralizes all these –they care nothing about you, and are neither the better nor worse for what you think of them. They manifest no joy at your approach; and when you leave them, it is with a feeling that they can do just as well without you. This is not sullenness, nor indifference, nor absence of mind; but they are intent solely on their own thoughts, and you are merely one of the subjects they exercise them upon. They live in society as in a solitude.”

William Hazlitt

Get to it!


Why do millions of men have no close friends?

If men were better at being friends, would they be better men?


Urticaria (hives) – Treatment – NHS Choices

Close up image of a man's body suffering severe urticaria nettle rash.Do you, or anyone you know, suffer from hives (urticaria)?

If so, you will know how nasty hives can be.

I say this with respect to general practitioners and others; we rarely get all the information we really need when using their services – for a variety of reasons; and yes, some are related to money.

No wonder then that people search online for help via ‘Doctor Google’ and others. I have done this myself and saved myself great angst, even having learned things that senior doctors should have told me, but didn’t.

Later in this article I will give you the link for extremely high quality information about hives/urticaria which is comprehensive and easy to understand. First though, some words of caution, and background information on why internet-based medical research works for me.

One of the serious concerns and risks of using Google for our own medical research is that most of us are not medically, or scientifically, trained. Relying on your own medical research can be extremely dangerous. That’s the flip side of helpful.

Personally, my deep inner lack of interest in my own opinion (humility) helps protect me. Allied with a deep awareness and appreciation of how to use logic in a scientific way, this has helped me when analysing medical information. Being mindful of the potential dangers is another plus.

My recent personal experience of a GP (General Practitioner) prescribing medication (not for hives) of a type which was not only inappropriate, but positively harmful, has underlined my long-held view that some doctors can be dangerous, despite their medical training. Fortunately a pharmacist saved me and helped me overcome my issue in a non harmful way. And yes, it is disturbing that a consultation with a GP led to harm and yet a consultation in a busy pharmacy fixed my issue (with non prescription mediation I might add). The doctor I saw was not one I usually see, at a ‘multi-practice’ – the doctor, and practice, have now been ‘fired’. This is one of many poor experiences over the years. This type of thing is yet another driver of conducting my own medical research.

Fortunately, I have another source of help, should I need it. Two of my friends are highly competent doctors – one is an interstate GP. The other is a senior surgeon with a significant local practice. Another friend, up on the Sunshine Coast, is a highly experienced ICU nurse (Intensive Care Unit). I have other friends trained in battlefield medicine. Now, I do not bother my friends unduly and am sensitive to their needs, however at times, being able to benefit from their insight is golden.

Let me sum up by saying that I think it important to take personal responsibility for one’s own physical (and mental for that matter) health. The laws of business and economics for example are going to dictate that we are unlikely to get all the information we need from a visit to the doctor. Medical professionals have limited time resources and have to make a profit/earn an income. You might be a ‘number’ to some. Get over it – it’s life. Any medical research you do, and the actions you take based on it, is your responsibility – not mine. I am not qualified to give medical advice and I do not give it. Read my Medical And Mental Health Disclaimer here.

Having read the above, we can see I have important checks and balances in place to help ensure that my reliance on my own medical research is not harmful.

Now, on to the high quality information about hives treatment:  Urticaria (hives) – Treatment – NHS Choices.  This site is part of the British National Health Service (NHS) and I recommend bookmarking it.

Finding sources of high quality medical information is critically important and the screen grab below from the NHS Choices website is not only reassuring, it also illustrates the point. I recall from 1981, when I learnt computer programming, that we had a term: GIGO (garbage in, garbage out); meaning that if you input crap into the computer, crap would be produced. Our minds are the same – if we read poor quality information we will get poor results from our thinking.  Bear in mind that good quality medical information we have researched can also help us get better care from the medical profession and make consultations more effective.

UK Gov - health and care information you can trust

Screen grab from NHS Choices website.





Disclaimer: I am not affiliated with, or endorsed by, the NHS or NHS Choices.



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