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I’m Tired Of People With Mental Health Issues Using Them as Excuses For Evil

Before I start; some notes:

  1. Some mental health issues are due to brain damage or other physical causes – this article does not apply to those.
  2. The commentary in this article uses an example of a man who drowned a cat and is not aimed at that specific case – the article is general in nature.
  3. The article will be confronting to some people, especially those of a ‘politically correct’ nature.
  4. Widespread poor results and care in the mental health field is a contributing factor to this ‘excuses issue’. Not only has a retired professor of psychology friend confirmed the widespread low incidence of deep results, I have come across large numbers of people (clients and more) who complain about it. Often, these latter say that only people who have personally had experience of mental health issues truly understand how to help.
  5. I suffered from severe mental health issues earlier in my life – when a child and into adulthood.
  6. Today I help my clients achieve significant results. So much so, that I count mental health professionals among my clients. I am planning a series of articles about how I can, and do, help my ‘competitors’ – it is important that people get help which works and if that be by a ‘competitor’, then that is a good outcome.
  7. Am I a proud git? No. In fact, humility is a cornerstone principle to mental freedom.

stop excusesMany in society, including myself, are fed up with individuals and organisations who use mental health issues to ‘excuse’ evil. ‘Mitigating factors’ is a term often used.

Unfortunately, using mental health issues in this way also tends to increase the stigma surrounding mental health. Often it is not true.

Today I read about a man who is said to have bipolar/manic depression who killed his lodger’s cat by drowning it, despite professing a liking for his own cat:

Elderly man drowned his lodger’s pet cat because it knocked over his model aeroplane

In the man’s defence, mental health history was brought up, along with a traffic accident which is said to have exacerbated the mental issues.

Clearly, we cannot know the true and full facts of the case and thus cannot comment on this man specifically. We do not know for example whether ‘mental health experts’ who have assessed the man, and the effects of the accident, have got it right (so many get it wrong). I do however find the fact that the man was able to express liking for his own cat disturbing in context of this actions. I expect that the man’s professed attitude will undermine the confidence of people who consider that he seemed able to feel some compassion and knowledge of good (for his own cat), yet chose to discriminate against the lodger’s cat. Unfortunately, many people in society further stigmatize people with mental health issues as a result of stories like this.

Moving on to the point of my article…

Years ago, when I had severe mental health issues, one of the keys to my freedom was taking personal responsibility for my actions, thinking and mental health. I had been to see lots of people with white coats and certificates on the walls – psychologists, psychiatrists, counsellors etc without much success. In fact, being an intuitive fellow I noticed that many of these ‘professionals’ despaired of being able to help me, though they tried to cover it up. I was also prescribed mood altering drugs etc, however I did not take them partly because I knew the chemicals would simply mask my symptoms and hinder healing and recovery.

I got well. Very well. So much so that I now have mental health professionals among my clients.

Why?

I paid a big price. Emotionally, spiritually, psychologically.

Among other things, I decided to seek truth and not my own opinion. I was determined to find a solution.

Years later, I discovered that there is a neuroscience term for part of what happened to my mind during recovery from mental health issues – neuroplasticity.

Today, I consider myself to be one of the most fortunate people in the world and am immensely grateful for the suffering I once experienced. Without it I would have never known the deep joy, peace and wisdom that I enjoy today.

From this standpoint then – a place of knowing that serious mental health issues can be overcome – I have a general tendency to dislike mental health issues being used as excuses for evil or bad behaviour.

We need to own up to and ‘own’ our shit before we can change.

I was an evil little shit (though I never hurt a cat in my life). In recovery, I did NOT make excuses; I got well instead.

Today, I have deep empathy, and in the case of animals, can even ‘communicate’ and heal their minds of deep trauma too. People have noticed. Yes, evidence and results tell.

So if you are in the habit of using mental health issues as an excuse – for yourself, or others – it might be time to stop, and get a life.

Tough words yes, but then, I have been there, and done it.

I’m not some ‘goody two shoes’ politically correct do-gooder with all kinds of certificates and no experience of the fires of mental hell.

Very few truly understand these words:

“Nobody is stronger, nobody is weaker than someone who came back. There is nothing you can do to such a person because whatever you could do is less than what has already been done to him. We have already paid the price” Elie Wiesel

"Natural Law" – What It Is, How You Can Identify It, And How To Benefit

Natural law, or the law of nature (Latin: lex naturalis), is a system of law that is purportedly determined by nature, and thus universal. Wikipedia

A key component of living life well is to align ourselves with natural laws, regardless of whether we like them or not. If we do not, the laws will work against us, and sometimes the negative effects may be severe.

Natural laws encompass the psychological, emotional, philosophical, physical, spiritual and more.

brain treeNotice I said: “regardless of whether we like them or not”. Harmonising our thoughts and actions with natural law can be painful and difficult – subconscious mind change healing,  therapy or coaching will help with this.

The pain and difficulties associated with disregarding natural law are much more significant than those associated with aligning ourselves,  and harmonising, with natural law.

How do we find out what natural laws are? Of the mind, body, spiritual world, environment and so on?

Here are some tips:

  • Decide that you want to discover wisdom and truth and that you will value it above all else. This means of course that you have to be willing to let go of your own opinions. In time, perhaps you will cherish finding out, or being told, you are wrong ;-)
  • Study the workings of the mind and how people ‘tick’.
  • Study philosophy.
  • Focus upon the deeper foundational stuff – common denominators. This gives greater leverage and leads to faster, better progress.
  • Get your subconscious mind sorted. This is a biggie. Your subconscious mind is a repository of all kinds of crap. Deeply ingrained thinking patterns which affect your ability to grasp and implement truth. Take religious thought for example – multitudes are conditioned by their society, parents and teachers to believe that their way is right. Logic tells us that religious ideas can’t all be right because of the contradictions.
  • Get some coaching from people who know. If you would like my help, please contact me here or use the contact form at the bottom of the page. Check out my Subconscious Mind Change series of articles…natural law is an important aspect.

Start applying natural laws.

Here are some examples…

The vast majority of people, excepting spiritual sages, for most, or all, of their day, tune their mental dials to the same radio station:

WII FM

What’s In It For Me

People generally are not interested in you, your life, your family, your world. Their focus is upon themselves. Even many charitable people are, deep down, focusing on what’s in it for them. Partly, this is due to basic human nature disconnected from spiritual source. (Note that I mentioned spiritual sages earlier).

Ideally, we need to rise above the me focus mentality, however that is hard; especially if you carry subconscious rubbish and have no true spiritual connection (according to natural law, not religious dogma). It is easier to rise above a purely me focus however if we focus on how we can benefit when we tune into what’s in it for others. Sure, we are thus thinking about our benefits, but this time from the perspective of helping others benefit. Frankly, it is easier to get selfish people started on doing good stuff if they can see how they will benefit.

An example: let’s say that normally, you are abrasive and rude to staff at restaurants. Unknown to you, the staff – who are tuning into WII FM – spit in your food and derive some satisfaction and feelings of power from their revenge. Good eh? Of course not.

Contrast this with the person who is kind, encouraging and otherwise treats the restaurant staff well. How do you rate this person’s chances of getting good service? Especially if, on a busy night, they phoned and on being told that no seats were available; said that as seats would be offered to Prince Charles if he had asked, could they have his?

I recall, many years ago, when I had a PO Box in the UK that I got on so well with the staff that they, without being asked, told me that if ever I needed my mail before they opened the doors officially, that I could come around the back anytime from (I can’t recall the time now)….to collect it. I was treated as a VIP because I treated them so well. There was no corruption involved I might add – I simply treated them with respect, kindness and so on.

One of the natural laws here of course is that if you treat others well, regardless of how you feel, what is happening in your life and so on; you will get better results. The phrase sowing and reaping comes to mind. How often do we stop and think about this though? Mindfully.

Focus on making others feel better, making their day better, thinking about how they might be feeling.

Interestingly, as you focus on others; you will start to feel better. Not just because your life improves, but because there is something deeply beneficial about helping others.

Those who are spiritually evolved, or at least on the path, will notice that their psyche loves to flow with natural law for nobler reasons than self interest. These are hard to explain because they need to be experienced…

So, today, cut back on talking about yourself, being preoccupied with me me and focus on other people. Watch how your world improves in a myriad of ways. Please let me know how you get on in the comments below.

And by the way, a key character indicator is how people treat those whom they perceive can do them no harm, or provide no benefit. This in itself is a natural law.

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A Christian with no inner peace of mind?

 

brain in cageA Christian with no inner peace of mind? Is that you? Or someone you know? Get help.

Have a look at this January 2011 news article:

The Christian hotelier found guilty of gay bias looks set to lose her home and asks: So who’s really being persecuted?

Mrs Bull, the Christian hotelier, is quoted as saying about her Christian husband Peter Bull:

“The uncertainty of the future would take Peter down. He doesn’t cope well with stress.”

This is interesting, but not unexpected or surprising. Christians make much of having a ‘relationship’ with God, the peace that goes with it, faith and certainty of God’s help.

These Christians were found guilty of discrimination. The Christian religion causes their discrimination, but seems not to enable Peter to experience inner peace of mind. Doesn’t he know deep in his bones that God loves him? If he did know, wouldn’t he have peace of mind? How can he love others if he does not know he is loved himself? The Bible says: Perfect love casteth out fear – 1 John 4:18.

So, we have religious dogma without love. Nasty eh! And sad.

Disclaimer: In case anyone wonders about my motives for writing this post; I am not gay, or bi and have never even had a fantasy of that nature. My point is aimed at the religiosity of Christians in general.

If you are a Christian without peace of mind – there are many (I have ‘inside’ knowledge because I was once a Christian minister) – and want help, please get in touch.

I provide help with Christian ‘exit counselling‘ (also known as strategic intervention therapy, cult intervention or thought reform consultation). Involvement with Christian activities and Christian churches can cause, and exacerbate, a wide range of emotional, psychological, spiritual and financial problems. In some cases, extremely serious mental health issues can arise. Many Christian cults exist – they can appear to be very benign and harmless. Often the surface impression can appear to be good, and it is only later that you realize that you are in the grip of a Christian cult.

I have in-depth personal experience of how involvement with Christian churches, church-folk and Christian thinking or beliefs can damage your mind, relationships, finances and life in general. To get help, contact me here.

I am located on the Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia, in Southport, however I can help you via phone/Skype and/or video link even if you are interstate, or overseas.

Note: By Christian cults I do not simply mean Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses or similar – I include many churches in this definition – places where cult type behaviour exists. This Wikipedia article will give you some pointers about how to identify a cult and you will see many similarities with Christian churches, especially the charismatic, Pentecostal, ‘Full Gospel’ varieties.

“In the entire first Christian Century, Jesus is not mentioned by a single Greek or Roman historian, religion scholar, politician, philosopher or poet. His name never occurs in a single inscription, and it is never found in a single piece of private correspondence.” Dr. Bart Ehrman – Professor Of Religious Studies – University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.