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Testimonial From Online Coaching Client Coached Via Skype Video

AlaskaHere is a testimonial received from Kevin Lull, an online coaching client based in Alaska, USA whom I helped via Skype video chat.

Kevin, a professional writer and business owner, had three hours of coaching in total, spread over three separate weeks in three one hour segments.

My questions are in bold, Kevin’s replies in italics.

The “Deep Mind Change” posts to which Kevin refers can be found here.

1) What was the obstacle that would have prevented you from buying this service?

The biggest obstacle I found to buying this service was, in a word, skepticism. The world is full of people offering techniques to change the way you think; visit the self-help section at any major bookstore and see for yourself. I already have a therapist; what point would there be to buying more therapy sessions from someone I’ve never met on the off-chance that this new technique is substantially different from zazen or Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy?
Nevertheless, the Deep Mind Change posts intrigued me, and given the availability of Skype sessions, I felt I had to know more.

2) What did you find as a result of buying this service?

I found a technique for accessing feelings that lie buried in my subconscious, for using my conscious mind to affect deep-rooted structures that are not normally amenable to conscious revision. After just a few weeks of practicing the Deep Mind Change technique, I’ve noticed significant and growing changes in the way I feel day-to-day, driven by the gradual changes in unconscious imagery I’ve been able to make.

3) What specific feature did you like most about this service?

The key component that resonated with me was the use of imagery, not words. I’ve always been a very verbal sort of thinker, and trying to directly contest the “messages” I receive from my subconscious with “better words” has met with limited success at best. Working on modifying the images that come up from my unconscious has been far more effective. I would say this is because I use words as weapons against myself, and it’s easy to put a venomous spin even on a positive affirmation. It’s not as easy to put a negative spin on a vision of the universe as filled with golden light that heals me as I drink it in (to name one vision I keep returning to). I was, honestly, surprised at how effective this is.

4) What would be three other benefits about this service?

Since I started doing this, my ability to hold a concrete image in my mind has improved dramatically. This has shown benefits in my writing, as an attempt to describe a nebulous image naturally produces weak, vague prose.
Every day, I feel a little more “tuned in” to the world around me. Constantly trying to interpret the world around me using my favorite medium of words sometimes felt like I was on a tape-delay, a few seconds behind reality. My reaction time in social situations has improved. I’ve even noticed an improvement in my ability to catch objects that are thrown to me, as random as that might sound. As I learn to trust my vision, I find myself more immersed in the world around me.
Finally, I’ve been dreaming more often, and much more vividly than I ever did before. It’s been years now since I’ve had real dreams more than once every few months; now, it’s almost every night, and usually they’re good ones. I find I have more control over them than I used to, as well, which probably explains why they’re usually pretty good (and even the bad ones don’t rise to the level of nightmares, at least not to date). For a lifelong insomniac, being able to disappear into another world where I’m still “conscious” but my body and mind are resting has been a godsend.
For the record, I do still suffer from insomnia, but it’s not as bad as it used to be, and hopefully it will keep getting better. I see no reason to doubt that it will.

5) Would you recommend this service? If so, why?

Absolutely. I would wholeheartedly recommend these techniques to anyone who feels “stuck” as I did, as a major component in freeing the mind from patterns that seem incorrigible. The Skype sessions specifically helped in overcoming the skepticism that I’m sure would have persisted had I merely read about how to do this. I’m not sure I would have fully committed to trying this kind of visualization if I’d merely read about it, without another human being guiding me through the process and encouraging me that it actually works.

6) Is there anything you’d like to add?

It amazes me that these techniques are so simple, so effective, and yet they aren’t more widespread. I’d love to do serious academic research on their efficacy, particularly as compared to more mainstream techniques such as CBT. My primary therapist, who had been working with me on my “stuck” feeling for some months before my Skype sessions with Alex, has been commenting on how dramatic the changes I’ve made in the past few weeks have been, but as encouraging as that is, it’s still an anecdote, and I’m craving data.