“We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what happens in us — how we can take it, what we do with it — and that is what really counts in the end.”
– Joseph Fort Newton
We need to decide whether to have a winning mentality.
Not choosing is a decision.
In my early life I was a big-time loser, due in significant part to my severe mental health problems which were primarily parent inflicted.
I overcame the issues, without drugs I might add, to such an extent that I now count mental health professionals, doctors and surgeons among my clients.
I am also extremely grateful to have had such an awful start to life, complete with terrible parents, a bitch of a step-parent, and three rotten ‘excuses’ for brothers/half-brothers.
I am ‘luckier’ than people who had good parents and siblings etc BECAUSE of what I MADE of the situation and what I KNOW.
Losers are people who, among other things, make excuses, take no significant action and make no real/genuine progress.
Which/what are you?
Be careful. Because it is so easy to overlook your losing traits. Many will read this post and nod; all the while suffering from a delusion that they are winners.
True winning at life includes balance – you might be extremely successful in one, or even a few, area/s in life but a big-time loser in others. My father, for instance, was a genuinely world-class business person (example: second in charge of accounts for a multinational car manufacturer – Leyland – at age 24 – in 1962 – he reported only to the Finance Director) yet he was a failure at more important aspects of life. He was so nasty and abusive* that in his final weeks in a private hospital on the Gold Coast (Queensland, Australia), before he died in June 2015, he nearly got thrown out by the nursing staff – a doctor had to intervene. (*My father had been nasty and abusive since my first memories of him – for decades – his attitude was nothing to do with his failing health at life’s end).
So, don’t deceive yourself.
True winning also includes the ‘right things’. That’s beyond the scope of this article, however it includes stuff like kindness, empathy and more. True success is not what many people think it is. It certainly is not just about money.
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