In my work as a former Private Investigator (and current counsellor/life coach/executive coach) I have sadly discovered that the problem of child abuse is much more serious and common than many people think. Offenders have included a wide variety of people ranging from a 15 year old boy (In 2004, who was into bestiality as well as pedophilia – see notes # at foot of page for more information) to apparently normal and upstanding members of society.
And need I mention Jimmy Saville?
These links and resources may help you identify signs of abuse or otherwise help to reduce the incidence and effects of this nasty behaviour.
Hetty Johnston founded White Balloon Day in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia during Child Protection Week, September 1997. White Balloon Day was created in response to the revelation that a family member was a paedophile. A brave disclosure by a 7 year old led to the realisation that this much-loved family elder had preyed on innocent children and their trusting parents for 40 years. Compounding this tragedy was the fact that this 40 year reign of terror had never been disclosed, let alone reported. With the support of her family, Hetty decided that the time had come to lift the cone of silence that has, for too long, aided and abetted the assault and torture of our most vulnerable members of society, our children. Bravehearts Inc is the result.
Recognizing When a Child’s Injury or Illness Is Caused by Abuse This is a very useful resource indeed. Especially for those people who are not quite sure that something bad may be happening. A good example is the Bruises page where you will find information on how to determine the ages of bruises to see if their ages are consistent with the caretaker’s explanation of the times of injury.
BUACA – Bikers United Against Child Abuse – BUACA is NOT in any way an Outlaw (OMCG organisation ) – it is a Social Club NOW and ALWAYS
Kids’ blogs a ‘paedophile’s dream’ – an older article from January 2005, but still very relevant today.
Virtual Global Taskforce – The Virtual Global Taskforce (VGT) is made up of police forces from around the world working together to fight online child abuse.
MAKO – Movement Against Kindred Offenders
Building Stronger Families -protecting children against sexual abuse. – The Mama Bear Effect
The Grey Man – is an Australian registered charity & international organisation dedicated to eradicating the trafficking & exploitation of children. The Grey Man organisation includes many former Police and Special Forces.
ThinkUKnow – ThinkUKnow is an Internet safety program delivering interactive training to parents, carers and teachers through primary and secondary schools across Australia using a network of accredited trainers. Created by the UK Child Exploitation and Online Protection (CEOP) Centre, ThinkUKnow Australia has been developed by the Australian Federal Police (AFP) and Microsoft Australia.
NAPCAN (National Association for Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect) – Australia.
Urban dictionary of “Rock Spider” – uses strong language.
Followers of Islam (Muslims) might be a risk to children. Here is just one example: Islam and Sex with Infants – Alisina.org. And by the way…what ‘race’ is Islam? It is not a race, it is a religion, philosophy, way of thinking and more.
Beyond Survivor – The Wounded Warrior Blog: Ten Signs Of Child Abuse
The Queensland State Government have introduced the Blue Card – Positive notice for Child Related Employment system which implements a security vetting procedure on people who work with children. You can find out more about it here. It is a great idea, however it is not foolproof and does not identify those people (pedophiles) who have not yet been caught.
In summary; I suggest that if you come across critical warning signs, or a child tells you about abuse, that you do something about it (report it to law enforcement authorities). Reporting it to some church elder, pastor, club manager is probably not a good idea at all (due to frequency of collusion or cover-ups) – it is a matter for law enforcement, who have a good understanding of all the procedures required in dealing with the situation and have powers to arrange protection for the child victims. If you tell other people (non law enforcement) about it, then the offender may get wind of the discovery and destroy evidence, or even harm the child. These other people (you tell, such as church or club leaders etc) may attempt to cover up the offence too – we have seen so much evidence of that. Just report child abuse to law enforcement. And don’t take the law into your own hands, or mention the situation to the local ‘hotheads’ or outlaw motorcycle gang.
My personal view
I am in favor of capital punishment – the death penalty – for serious child abuse*. In Australia and the UK (& some other countries), offenders are usually released back into the community after serving their sentence. Re-offence rates are very high.
Some people might claim that the death penalty is too harsh for these scum and that I am barbaric. Perhaps they should consider that it is our weak society which is truly barbaric. For example: A paedophile is sentenced to jail. In time, he gets out of jail. Most pedophiles will re-offend. Society has in these cases allowed the new case(s) of child abuse to occur because society/government let the bastards out of jail, knowing the statistics regarding re-offence rates. Simply speaking, our so-called caring, Christian, and/or politically correct / ‘do gooder’ society has allowed further child abuse and severe suffering. Society is in these cases partly responsible and therefore there is blood on society’s hands.
Of course, kiddie fiddlers could be kept in jail indefinitely and some indeed are. In fact, I know that in some Australian states, some offenders are kept in jail beyond the term of their prison sentence. This is good. I have a number of reasons why I favour capital punishment for serious child abuse, however will not detail them here. I am a Philosopher and have thought deeply about it. I know that significant numbers of people from across society also favour the death penalty for this type of thing. The law protects paedophiles from people like me who won’t break the law (See note below about ‘duality’).
I recall a memory from many years ago when I lived in the United Kingdom, of a UK prison warder (Screw) I knew, who said that child molesters in prison had some peculiar habits. He went on to tell that because pedophiles were in danger from the ‘ordinary criminals’ in prison they had to be kept separate and escorted by two warders if moving from one part of the prison to another. The odd thing was, said the prison warden, that for some strange reason child molesters had a frequent habit, while being escorted, of falling down stairs, sometimes injuring themselves quite badly. The prison officer said it was all very odd because other prisoners (ordinary criminals) did not do this.
It is, of course, possible for someone who genuinely wants to change, to overcome their sexual interest in people under the age of 16 (16 is the age of sexual consent here in Australia, and in the UK), however in most cases it is likely to require some very deep work on their subconscious. We need to also bear in mind that some people go on to abuse children ‘because’ they were abused themselves. This is no excuse however and some such people do not go on to abuse kids. Personally, I was mentally, emotionally and spiritually abused by both my parents, and physically abused by my father (extreme beatings – one was so bad that a fellow pupil wanted to report it to my school principal), yet I did not turn into a child beater or otherwise abuse kids in my life. In fact, one stepson, of his own accord, even said that I loved him, while telling me that he hated me. We need to take personal responsibility for fixing our lives. My mental problems were so bad that even the ‘professionals’ (as many of them like to call themselves in their marketing) could not help me – imagine how disconcerting that must have seemed to me at the time – and I decided I would find the solution myself, in spite of everything.
My view is that if a pedophile genuinely wants to change, then we as a society need to help and facilitate that. In one sense, who are we to judge if someone truly wants to change? Don’t we want ‘forgiveness’ for our errors? If so, how can we be contradictory by not forgiving others who genuinely want to, or do, change? Isn’t that a double standard? The problem tends to be however that many (perhaps most?) of these offenders do not want to change and it is also difficult to determine whether signs of contrition are genuine. Should we subject them to lie detector tests, which can be beaten? It seems that developments in neuroscience will in future enable us to know for sure if someone is lying, which might be good in this case, however it also smacks of George Orwell’s 1984.
In summary then, I have a ‘duality’ toward pedophiles – on the one hand; an extremely intense hostility toward those who want to persist in their sick ways, and on the other; a compassionate, helpful attitude to those that genuinely want assistance in changing. As someone with extensive experience in fixing deep subconscious issues, I am well able to help them change and as such have a ‘responsibility’ to do so, if they ask. The sense of responsibility is not only to them, but to society at large, because my help could save a child in the future.
Here is a particularly pertinent article in Scientific American ™ from which I quote: a perfectly normal man turned into a pedophile by a massive tumor at the base of his orbitofrontal cortex. Searching for the True Sources of Crime – Where neuroscience meets criminology
* By serious child abuse I do not mean things like the 15 year old guy who seduces his teacher; who should know better, is clearly breaking the law and in the wrong.
# Additional notes about 15 year old offender mentioned above – the offending was reported to Queensland State Police. Australian Federal Police officers were also involved due to additional national security concerns unrelated to the pedophilia. He admitted the offences, took steps to successfully ensure that the Police were unable to gain evidence sufficient for Court, and declined offered psychological help. His avoidance of justice and therapy was aided & abetted by other individuals. He tried to ‘demonise’ key people who were aware of his real nature. He is recalcitrant today. Yes, the guy is a thoroughly nasty bit of work.
## Spelling note: the use of different spellings for pedophile in this article is deliberate.